Be Careful What You Wish For Because You Might Just Get It!

As a child, I was far wiser than my years. I didn't know it then, but looking back at my story, I definitely know it now.

I think I tried to create another life in my mind...

An emotionally safe and happy life. A life where I had a voice. I was heard. I was not called too sensitive or moody if I retreated to my bedroom when things got heated at home. A place where my emotions were seen and acknowledged. A home that was peaceful. No arguing. No outbursts. Family sitting together laughing and chatting. I grew up hearing the saying "Children should be seen and not heard."

I believed in fairytales. I dreamt of my own family that I would have one day. A loving husband. Two children. A boy and a girl. A happy, cozy home. Animals. Plants. Cooking & baking delicious food.

Everything you see in romantic movies or read in romance novels.

I wanted that. ALL of it.

Unfortunately, tragically, in 1990, I lost my only sibling, my big brother Claude, in a fatal car accident when he was 22 and I was 19. We were woken up abruptly at 3:30 am on the 7th of December 1990 by policemen loudly knocking on our front door. One policeman had two identity books in his hand. He opened them up to the photo sections and said this one is deceased... THAT ONE was my big brother. My life changed forever that tragic morning. Before that, I never fully understood what it meant to feel heartbroken and feel heartache. My heart felt physically broken into pieces and a huge part gone forever.

God must have heard my silent dreams and prayers because he sent me an angel to work through my loss, my heartache, and help me start to create the life I always dreamt about. Someone who was patient and kind with my feelings. Someone who made me feel safe, seen, and heard. Someone special who took the time to teach me not to run away from problems or ignore them. He taught me how to stop and chat through the crying, not understanding, and help me work it out.

Whatever you have been through or whatever you are going through now, I want you to know that it is never too late and that anything is possible. When you wish for something, I want you to think big. I don't want you to limit yourself.

I created a beautiful life for myself where everything I wished for came true.

So my question is "Why not you too?"

I see so many incredibly talented individuals with so much potential who are stuck and sitting back watching others live the life that they want. Sometimes, fear holds them back. Often, a lack of self-confidence is their roadblock.

BUT what I mostly notice is that people have a negative MINDSET!

Imagine your mind as an orchard. Without proper care, nothing beneficial will grow from barren soil besides unwelcome weeds and pests.

Hand on heart, I really want you to focus on developing your mindset first.

Deal with your past. Work through your obstacles. Get your head in the winning game.

Only once you are feeling happy, positive, and motivated do I want you to start planning your future goals.

Look at every area of your life you would like to change.

Set your goals in writing.

Put a timeline to it.

Create a step-by-step plan.

Start with one goal, and as you gain momentum, you'll feel more energised and excited to pursue the rest of your goals as your dreams start to become your new reality.

We all have a past. We all have our own story to tell, but don't allow it to keep you stuck, hold you back, and limit your dreams.

"Be careful what you wish for because you might just get it!"

If I can, then you can too.

Reivention time.

Time to take back your power.

Robyn x

PS If you need a non-judgmental ear, assistance overcoming obstacles, and someone to guide you in reinvention and creating your dream life, then let's chat.

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